Sexual Addiction

  • Are you or someone you know concerned about your sexual behavior?

  • Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you or your family?

  • Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others?

  • Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?

  • Has sex (or romantic fantasies) been a way for you to escape your problems?

  • Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual activity and failed?

Then you may have a sexual addiction.  Take the free Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST) here: Dr. Rojas offers a more comprehensive online assessment consisting of 179 questions.

Spouses of Sex Addicts

Discovering that your spouse is a sex addict can be an extremely traumatic experience.  Spouses often report having the following symptoms upon discovery:

  • Feel that their sense of safety and trust in the relationship has been shattered

  • Feel angry and betrayed

  • Feel shocked - that this could not possibly be happening to them

  • Question if the whole relationship was a lie

  • Engage in self-blame by wondering if they could have done something to prevent their spouse's behavior

  • Compulsively read about sex addiction in order to try to make sense of what happened

  • Leave the spouse without assessing if the relationship might be salvageable

  • Develop anxiety, panic attacks, depression, headaches, aches, and/or pains

  • Experience intrusive thoughts of real or imagined sexual acts of spouse with others

  • Cope by abusing alcohol, over eating, over spending, or engaging in other unhealthy behaviors

Some of these symptoms are also experienced by spouses who have discovered that their spouse is having an affair.  It is important to understand the distinction between the causes and recovery process for infidelity versus sex addiction.  For more information on the impact of sex addiction induced trauma click here. Additionally, some spouses of sex addicts also have a love addiction.

Love Addiction

  • Do you rely on relationships to escape from stress and other negative feelings?

  • Have you rushed into love relationships too quickly without truly getting to know your partner?

  • Have you mistaken sexual or romantic intensity for genuine long lasting intimacy?

  • Have you faked interests in activities you do not enjoy or beliefs you do not hold in order to meet someone new or keep an existing partner?

  • Do you consistently chose partners who are emotionally unavailable, addicted, or abusive?

  • Have you had difficulty setting healthy boundaries in relationships?

  • Have you sought out a new relationship while still being in a relationship?

You do not have to go through this alone.  Healing and true intimacy are within your reach.